第六十三天

[nnozomi]

第七天！一个星期怎么这么快。No grammar points today, post something you like in Chinese (a song, a poem, a drama quotation, a useful study thing, a painting, something funny, you name it).

Mine: since someone brought up Chao Yuen Ren last week, here is one of his many interesting quotations (this one both Chinese linguistic-related and a bit 耽美-avant-la-lettre, although he didn't mean it that way).

In Dora Black's lectures [in 1920 in China], she mentioned the problem of marriage. At one of her lectures she mentioned "those young men and women who are not married." Since "to marry" in Chinese takes a different word whether it's a man or a woman, I had to translate by different verbs. But I twisted them around using the wrong verb and came out with something which would sound like "those young men who have no husbands and those young women who have no wives," and the audience, of course, roared with laughter. When Miss Black asked me what they were laughing about, I told her [whispered] "It'll take too long to explain; I'll have to explain to you afterwards." Ch'ü is the verb literally "to take," to marry by a man, and chia, literally "to go home," is a verb to marry on the part of a woman.

(Thank goodness we can just say 结婚 these days. I think the first verb must be 娶, which I had to look up, and the second one 嫁...)

Starting around tomorrow I hope to institute a slightly new format, adding some vocabulary along with grammar (so people can choose to practice either or both as preferred) and maybe doing one masterpost/review and one "share something fun" 第七天 on alternate weeks. Keep letting me know how it looks. 辛苦了或加油！

Comments

[presumenothing]

Alas, 娶 and 嫁 are still in use these days — I've never bothered learning the difference between them, but 取 vs 家… well guess I do know it now LOL. You also see it crop up in words like 娶媳妇、出嫁、嫁妆…… though as Wiktionary reminds me, there's also the non-matrimonial meaning of 嫁祸, i.e. to put the blame on someone.

今天想带给大家的曲子是郑云龙（aka The Other 龙哥 XD）的水调歌头！Lyrics from the Su Shi poem of the same title, also popularly known by the first half of its closing line 但愿人长久 – I know I dropped a link with translations here at some point, but anyway English subs 英文字幕 included in the video.

[grayswandir]

I didn't even realize those were less common than 结婚, though now that I'm thinking about it, maybe I've heard them more in historical dramas than modern ones. I thought they just had different... grammatical functions, I guess, with 结婚 for the intransitive "to get married" (with no direct object) versus 娶 and 嫁(给) as transitive verbs ("to marry [someone]," "to take [someone] as your husband/wife," etc.).

But thinking about it, I guess 结婚 can also indicate the person you're marrying (和...结婚), so you really don't need to indicate anybody's gender when you talk about marrying them. Which is honestly pretty cool, imo. I hadn't really compared all the different options before.

I've also heard 婚 used (in Cantonese) for talking about an "unmarried" woman, and I'm not sure what a non-gendered option for that could be. (Or how you'd say the same thing about a man, for that matter. I guess just "bachelor"? 单身汉？) Google Translate is telling me the way to say "unmarried woman" in Mandarin is 未婚女子? (The Canto construction would have led me to expect 未婚的女子, but maybe the 的 isn't necessary?)

[nnozomi]

Google Translate is telling me the way to say "unmarried woman" in Mandarin is 未婚女子?
Based on Japanese usage alone, I would say that you could say 未婚男人 for a man as well because 婚 itself isn't especially gendered (other than the radical), but I may be way out.

[grayswandir]

Oh no, this is me being terrible at reading characters! I meant to be talking about 嫁, not 婚. (I copy-pasted 未婚女子 from Google Translate, but I thought the second character was 嫁 because that's what I was expecting when I asked Google for the translation, and then I copied the character from there for the rest of the paragraph. Ay. I was trying to say 未嫁(的), which I've heard before. I've never heard 未婚, so I just... read the character as the one I expected it to be. :P But yeah, assuming 未婚 is a thing, I assume it could apply to either gender.)

[nnozomi]

I was trying to say 未嫁(的), which I've heard before.
Interesting! I don't know if that's a Cantonese thing or a general Chinese one, it doesn't seem to have made it into Japanese. As you say, curious about what the gendered male version would be if there is one!

[grayswandir]

Now that I'm thinking about it, I do know 未婚夫/未婚妻 as fiance/fiancee. So I think I probably have heard 未婚 before, and am just blanking on it right now because it wasn't what I thought I wrote. XD

[externalities]

未嫁的 is only used for unmarried women, while 未婚 is gender neutral.

I guess you can break down 未婚 as "yet to be married", with 未 used in the sense of "not yet" or "so far has never happened".

On the other hand, the "未" in "未婚夫/未婚妻" is a stand-in for "未来" (future) - so, "the husband/wife (I will be) married (to) in the future".

[presumenothing]

this is completely 文不对题 but thinking of 未婚 in the context of "so far has never happened" is cracking me up XD (status: woke up today, still not married. business as usual)

[grayswandir]

You know, it occurs to me that I do always interpret a certain amount of "not yet" in 未, so it would sound funny to me to talk about a historical figure as 未婚, because part of my brain would hear it as meaning they still hadn't married anyone... yet. XD

[presumenothing]

…there's always the zombie apocalypse? XD

[grayswandir]

Thanks! Yeah, 未婚 as "not (yet) married" makes sense, and I think I always took 未婚夫/未婚妻 as being like "the husband/wife that I haven't married yet (but am going to)." A lot of variation in the amount of "yet" going on in these usages!

(ETA: Oh, and interesting that 未嫁的 needs 的 at the end, but 未婚 does not! I guess that explains why there was no 的 in the phrase I got from Google Translate, since that was 未婚 and not 未嫁.)

[presumenothing]

You're right, they do kinda function in different ways grammatically so it's not like they're perfectly substitutable for each other either – maybe 娶/嫁 feeling less common is partly a function of people generally just mentioning marriage and/or being married without needing to specify who? Outside of like, idk, matchmaking or other specific situations. 结婚 already suffices for the eternal when-are-you-gonna-get-married nagging, after all, which could drive up usage counts to astronomical heights all by itself XD

[nnozomi]

Alas, 娶 and 嫁 are still in use these days ... though as Wiktionary reminds me, there's also the non-matrimonial meaning of 嫁祸, i.e. to put the blame on someone.
Japanese also still uses 嫁ぐ with the same meaning, although it's a bit old-fashioned (maybe the concept rather than the word...). Likewise 責任転嫁, the same as 嫁祸.

郑云龙（aka The Other 龙哥 XD）的水调歌头！Lyrics from the Su Shi poem of the same title
aka The Other ZYL lol. Yes, I remember your link to the poem, and that's a perfect setting for it!

[presumenothing]

Oh hey that reminds me, I did notice 花嫁 having… well, 嫁 LOL… at some point but didn't actually connect it to whether the word was otherwise in use!

[yaaurens]

I come bearing an update on some of the new apps I've been trying out!

HanBook is actually pretty cool, even if you can't access the guided lessons without paying for premium. I did get to do one of those before they locked it down, and while it was super basic, I liked how they were presenting the lesson, so if I ever have money to pay for another app, it may be this one. Even the free parts are useful! They have these Word Books that you can go through, vocabulary words and phrases that they show you on their own and then in some sort of contextual sentence. They have reading, writing, and quizzes, and get this: THEY GRADE YOUR SPEAKING! It's not super detailed, but they give you a sense of how you're doing, which is very nice. And they also have really good videos on pronunciation!

I also started playing with Speekoo, which has a neat concept, wherein each level takes you to a different city in China and as you pass lessons you get fun fact cards about that city (I'm currently in Chengdu, so many of the facts are about pandas!). One thing I really like about it is how GOOD the audio recording is; it's all very high quality and you can really hear the tones and pronunciation. However, they don't use proper pinyin, as there's no tone markers, and no 汉子 which seems very odd to me. But it's definitely good for listening since the recordings are so well done.

Side note: I'm also using FunEasyLearn, but not for Mandarin, although they do have Mandarin. That one also has a premium feature, but gives you the option of earning points by doing lessons in order to unlock those features. Since I haven't used it for Mandarin, I can't speak to how good that part is, but I like the way it works for Croatian - and they have both simplified and traditional options available!

[nnozomi]

Thank you for the rundown! HanBook and Speekoo both sound promising (I'm really tempted by the city part, that sounds like my thing, and by the HanBook Word Books). Very much appreciated!

[yaaurens]

I'm not sure how advanced Speekoo is going to get, I think it's still under construction, but I do like getting all my little facts! I've moved to Guilin, I think it was?